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  • Self Care Tips For Every Body
  • News (after main article):

From BORP, Wheelchair Basketball, Seated Tai Chi, and Cycling Center
New Events from SVILC
DREDF Action Alert: H.R. 620 passed in the House of Representatives!
Spotlight on CPANYS (Coalition of People of dis-Abilities of NYS)


Self Care Tips For Every Body

“An empty lantern provides no light.Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly.”-Unknown

We are back! What a month and a half it has been! Often we are at the mercy of our physical conditions. It’s important to listen to our bodies, minds, and souls for rest and replenishment before it’s too late. Sometimes we don’t listen right away and things get out of control, hence the silence for the past month and a half. From pressure sores, to chronic pain and fatigue, not to mention the dangerous flu season it has been, self-care is a necessity.

Looking back at how we were and who we were can be a hindrance and an unreasonable expectation of where we are and who we are now. It’s definitely not easy to have a balance between the two. It’s not to say that we just lay around now with the excuse that we’re just not the same. It is the acceptance to the changes that are occurring within us, or have occurred and being patient with ourselves and our possible limitations. All of this can bring self-doubt, depression, sadness, mourning, and frustration. It is a very valid way to feel when things have changed so drastically. However, the one person who must be the most patient, understanding, and loving person to ourselves is us. If we don’t take care of ourselves, no one else will.

Here are some easy ways to take care of ourselves each and every day. Do not feel you have to adopt each and every one of them into your life, take what you feel is relevant to you, and leave the rest.

  1. Let go of control. You don’t have to have the answers to the world problems. Life is meant to be an adventure and full of mysteries. You can’t control all events and should learn to embrace the unknown. Follow your instincts with grace, and grace and love will lead you in the right direction.
  2. Learn to accept your life. It may not be perfect, but it is what it is. List your best assets and be satisfied with your life as it is. Find the special ways that you have been blessed and concentrate on the special skills that you have.
  3. Find a special place where you can be quiet and alone with your thoughts. There is so much rushing in our lives, over stimulation with our technical gadgets that we forget to stop, be quiet and listen to the wind. Your special place may be a park, garden, room in your house or anywhere you can turn off the noise and listen to the quiet. Take a few moments every day to close your eyes listen to the grass grow.
  4. You are totally unique! No one else has your good qualities. Don’t compare yourself with others. Every person has personal and health issues and you don’t know what their struggles have been. Uses your uniqueness to find what is needed to reach your goals.
  5. Create Joyful Rituals. Create rituals of joy like spreading the bed and drinking lemon water every morning. Create simple easy to do rituals that ground your day and you’ll find your way “home” no matter what life throws at you.
  6. Conquer scary tasks. Take one small step at a time and soon the task will be conquered. It’s so easy to find a hundred excuses for why you’re not ready to do something you’ve dreamed of. To reach out to someone who could change your life. To apply for that job you’ve always wanted. Remind yourself of how short life is. In the end, any discomfort or rejection won’t really matter. The only way to achieve things you want is to take bold actions. If something scares you deeply, it means you want it deeply, so go for it.
  7. Cherish Your True Friends including your internet friends. Surround yourself with true friends. Friends who’ve seen you at your worst, and love you even more for it. Friends you can be crabby and miserable around and yet they strive to make you laugh. Internet friends can be supportive and as precious as friends who visit in your home. All those friends are priceless.
  8. Know Your Strengths. Our weaknesses are always shouting out for our attention. Try to instead focus on your strengths. You have so many. Focus on them and use them daily. List them out so you never forget what they are. Build your life around them.
  9. Eat as Many Greens as Possible. Greens, greens and more greens. Fruit too. The more you eat them, the more your tastebuds change and you realize just how delicious food from the earth truly is. The lighter you feel, the better your skin looks, the more energy you have.
  10. Reduce/Eliminate Animal Products. As you may know, our food production system is a disgrace; to animals, to our health, to the environment. We fill our bodies with an abundance of hormones, chemicals and pesticides and support awful places with our everyday food choices. Whether you’re an animal person or not, eating more from the earth and less from the factories lightens both your plate, your arteries, and your spirit.
  11. Exercise Regularly. Regular exercise can transform your life. Find the appropriate exercise for your body. Start slow and add a little time each week. Measure your activity and chart your progress. Make time for exercise, it will give time back to you.
  12. Stand up for yourself. Being nice and being a doormat are two very different things. Be strong and stand up for yourself, don’t be afraid of offending others with the truth. Use your voice and don’t let people walk all over you. Being a doormat robs you of your voice and leaves you angry and resentful. Be strong!
  13. Forgive Yourself. Forgive Others. Forgiveness is one of our most powerful allies. Forgive the people in your life who harmed you and forgive yourself for your own mistakes and you will liberate yourself from pain, anger, resentment and negativity. Anger, grudges and resentment sap your energy and hurt no one more than the person holding them.
  14. Stay Away from Negative People. Avoid people who are mean and nasty. Choose carefully who you keep in your life.
  15. Don’t Be a Negative Person. Don’t get drawn into negativity. It brings down your vibration. Always remember who you are and who you want to be. Be nice to people, to everyone. Support people and their dreams. Love as you’d want to be loved. Strive to be nicer and do better. Being a positive person attracts other positive people.
  16. Don’t Live on Facebook. Facebook is great and it’s fun to be social. And if you have an online business, it’s priceless. But reading through facebook statuses too often can lead to “facebook depression.” Facebook is like an advertising campaign for everyone’s life. It’s all shiny and sparkly and well-crafted to present the best. That’s only the face that people want to show – not quite real – but an edited version of their life.
  17. Allow Yourself to Feel Whatever You’re Feeling. If you are down or hurt know that it will get better and focus on the positive feelings. If you don’t want to leave the couch. It’s okay. Let yourself sulk, get it all out of your system. Don’t fight it because “what you resist, persists.” So don’t resist. The sooner you get it all out the sooner you can move on.
  18. Breathe Deep. Deep luscious breaths from way down in your diaphragm. Deep breaths clean your lungs and refresh your brain.
  19. Embrace Your Imperfections. Your imperfections are your perfection. Embrace them. Let them reveal your individuality. Laugh at them if you need to. Perfect is boring. Imperfections make things interesting. And behind every imperfection is a strength.
  20. Share your life. Find a really nice person to be with you as a date/Co-Habitat, partner, or special friend. Who needs a bad-ass (in the arrogant, self-centered, high school maturity level sense of the term), being nice is way sexier, more secure, more comforting, more loving, more stable, and all around more awesome.
  21. Read Non-Fiction to Expand Your Mind. Read Fiction to Expand Your Imagination. It’s inspiring for the imagination, a great distraction and such a good way to end the day. Reading can be educational, inspirational or just fun.
  22. Watch Less TV. Such a hard habit to break. Too much TV robs you of time and social interaction. Goals fly out the window. Motivation gets lost. So does conversation. TV’s addictive and it lures you in, try to keep it in moderation.

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From BORP, Wheelchair Basketball, Seated Tai Chi, and Cycling Center:

We are hosting the 2018 West Coast Conference Wheelchair Basketball Championship at Stanford University where we will be cheering on the BORP Jr. Road Warriors. Our Fitness Studio has a full schedule of classes, including this month’s featured class: Seated Tai Chi on Tuesdays at 10:15 am. On March 3rd the Cycling Center opens for the 2018 season.

New Events from SVILC

We’ve added a number of events to our public calendar, including seven workshops and events at the Silicon Valley Independent Living Center as well as Power Soccer 2018 on Mar 10, 11, and 17  Please come check it out at


DREDF Action Alert: H.R. 620 passed in the House of Representatives!

Tell your Senators to Oppose H.R. 620

Do Not Roll Back the Protections of the Americans with Disabilities Act!

Call the U.S. Capitol Switchboard today at (202) 224-3121 and ask to be connected to your Representative.

Email your Representatives: Contacting Congress provides unique links to email your Representative directly.


Spotlight on CPANYS (Coalition of People of dis- Abilities of NYS)

If you use Yahoo, you might want to check out this group.  Although they are based in NYS, they discuss topics that are of interest to everyone involved in the disability community.  You can even subscribe to weekly updates by joining the group.  To join, you’ll need a free account.  You can learn more about the group at

The CPANYS (Coalition of People of dis- Abilities of NYS) associated with
consumers, clients, activists, health care providers, professional organizations working, representing, advocate on behalf or with people with disabilities and seniors. The CPANYS is searching for information, resources, services, alert about changing policies, and encourage PWD and SENIORS to full participation in their life by increase appropriate regulations and legal protections.

This group gives great opportunity to share information with other groups and organization, promote their activities, finding the answer for the problems of people with disability and seniors, consumers and clients and to achieve the main goal – helping PWD and SENIOR to life their life independently.

From their latest newsletter:

Advocates Up in Arms Over Bill They Say Violates the ADA  Mental health and disability rights advocates have raised concerns over legislation they say would strip away the civil rights of people with disabilities. The Bazelon Center for Mental Health Law on Feb. 8 is- sued an alert urging email actions, establishing a call-in day urging consumers  to  contact  members  of  the House to vote no on the bill and encouraging letters and social media postings of opposition.

The ADA Education and Reform Act of 2017 (H.R. 620) requires the Disability Rights Section of the Department of Justice to develop a program to educate state and local governments and property owners on strategies  for  promoting  access  to public accommodations for persons with a disability. The program may include training for professionals to provide a guidance of remediation for potential violations of the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA). The bill also prohibits civil actions based on the failure to remove an architectural barrier to access into an existing public accommodation unless: (1) the aggrieved person has provided to the owners or operators a written notice specific enough to identify the barrier and (2) the owners or operators fail to provide the person with a written description outlining improvements that will be made to improve the barrier or they fail to remove the barrier or make substantial progress after providing such a description.

The Bazelon Center for Mental Health Law, in its alert, called H.R. 620 a “travesty” that “upends” the intent and purpose of the ADA. The legislation says that businesses no longer have to be proactive and make sure they are accessible to people with disabilities, according to the Bazelon Center. “Instead a business can remain inaccessible until a person with a disability who has been denied access jumps through multiple hoops to notify the business that it is violating the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) and then waits up to 6 months for the business to make ‘progress’ in fixing the problem,” the Bazelon Center stated. “It’s very unfortunate that a majority of House members have supported a bill that, if enacted into law, will make compliance with the ADA’s access requirements less likely,” Mark Murphy, managing attorney at the Bazelon Center, told MHW. “Such an outcome only hurts people with disabilities for whom such access is a fundamental civil right that should be protected rather than attacked.”

The Bazelon Center noted that it has been 28 years since the passage of the ADA and yet people with disabilities still face enormous barriers. “This bill will only make things worse, not better,” they stated. Bipartisan billThe bipartisan bill was filed Jan. 25 by Reps. Ted Poe (R-Texas), Scott Peters (D-California), Ami Bera (D-California), Ken Calvert (R-California), Jackie Speier (D-California) and Mike Conaway (R-Texas). A spokesperson for Rep. Poe indicated that the bill has not been filed in the Senate yet. In comments emailed to MHW, Poe stated, “The overall goal of H.R. 620 is to achieve compliance with the ADA by all businesses as quick as possible. Most of these business owners believe they are in compliance with the ADA and have even passed local and state inspections. However, despite their best attempts, certain attorneys and their pool of serial plaintiffs troll for minor, easily correctable ADA infractions so they can file a lawsuit and make some cash.” Poe added, “Often, there isn’t even an ‘alleged violation’ specified in the demand letters. There is now a whole industry made up of people who prey on small business owners and file unnecessary abusive law- suits that abuse both the ADA and the business owners. “The ADA is a vital law that is meant to make American businesses more accessible to the disabled. But the integrity of this important law is being threatened by frivolous law-suits that only abuse the ADA. This legislation restores the purpose of the ADA: to provide access and accommodation to disabled Americans, not to fatten the wallets of attorneys.” Poe added, “Under current law, businesses must fight these lawsuits out in court, or settle (often leaving the alleged infraction uncorrected). These lawsuits are often time-consuming. H.R. 620 allows these violations to be fixed quicker (within 120 days) than a lawsuit would allow. The rights of individuals with disabilities  are  not  infringed  in  any way, and  the  right  to  pursue  legal action is retained if the violation is not fixed.” • Bazelon Center ‘condemns’ House passage of ADA reform bill.

As MHW went to press, we learned that the House passed the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) Education and Reform Act by a vote of 225 to 192. Advocates had raised concerns about the legislation they say violates the ADA, and are calling on the Senate to reject such legislation. The Bazelon Center for Mental Health Law, in a statement, condemned the passage by the House of Representatives of H.R. 620. “If this bill were to become law, it would drive a stake through enforcement of the Americans with Disabilities Act’s public accommodations provisions,” said Jennifer Mathis, director of policy and legal advocacy at the Bazelon Center.

“The bill would remove any consequence for businesses that fail to comply with the ADA until they receive a written notice from a person with a disability who has been denied access, informing the business of its legal obligations and the specific violations that occurred.” The business would have six months to make “substantial progress” in removing the barrier. “H.R. 620 would make it much harder for people with disabilities to enforce their right to access stores, restaurants, hotels, doctors’ offices, homeless shelters, and other places of public accommodation,” Mathis explained. “Twenty-eight years after the ADA was passed, businesses should be expected to know what it requires of them. It is absurd to require people with disabilities to shoulder the burden of educating businesses about their obligations.” Said Bethany Lilly, deputy director of policy and legal advocacy, “this bill would make people with disabilities second-class citizens.” “We call on the Senate to reject any legislation that weakens the ADA,” stated Bazelon officials.

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